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The Great Custody Switch: Mothers Just Filed Family Court Discrimination in New York

 

                                            Written by DK Family Court Coach


For the first time ever, women have united to file a Complaint claiming they are being discriminated against in custody cases in New York on May 19, 2026.

"This is the beginning of women taking back their power after being deprived of it."

Until the 1800’s, children were legally men’s property and women had zero power to keep their children and men would simply claim their ex-wife was immoral, malicious, crazy, a witch, or whatever. The judge would credit men’s false allegations and grant them custody, the same thing happening today. This is being called the Great Custody Switch. Women are deliberately discredited to abet the Switch.

Judges don’t even have to rule a woman is mad or bad, they just find it is in the best interests of the child to switch custody from a good, primary-nurturing mother to an abusive or otherwise undeserving father. These fathers have no clue about the children because they never really cared and the mother took care of them.

In my case, I discovered the GAL, her spouse the vice president of a bank, and his divorce attorney all met in the back of the bank and they sold him custody. Because I had a personal protection order against him, they had to make him look like a “good” dad and me out to be a bad mother. Noting I did was correct and everything he did was seen as good. When I had proof of him doing something bad, the hearing would be dismissed. This is psychological torture and it’s used to keep all eyes off them and on the mother. Leaving her with PTSD and the loss of her children that was at one point, her entire world. 

We’re mad as hell and we’re not going to take this anymore!

Establishing sex discrimination as the cause of the Custody Crisis is the first step in ending the scourge. The Director of The Women’s Coalition Now, Cindy Dumas says, “with this lawsuit, women will come to realize they are being systemically discriminated against and unite as a class to implement a new system—one that prevents the discrimination.”

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  1. Anonymous5/23/26, 2:16 AM

    Apparently a group of men tried this years ago in NJ and it did not work. Unclear where they filed this discrimination at exactly but I'm thinking it's the wrong place.

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