Noncustodial Mother's Day

                                        DK Family Court Coach for mothers in family court.  As an adult, I did not realize I was being abused by my partner. Because there were no bruises, I assumed the relationship was normal. When I was introduced to the Power and Control Wheel and physical violence would be the next step. After the divorce he created a high-conflict custody battle to get custody of the children and manipulate me into going back to him or further torture me as my world was about my children. Then learning how abusive the family court system is and being abused by the system that was meant to protect. At the time, my former spouse was manipulating my children, who were 3, 8, and 12, in ways that made them want to live with him so he could gain custody. He was the “fun dad” and allowed behaviors that were inappropriate, while I was left enforcing boundaries. When ...

  Father's Day 2025 by DK Family Court Coach Fathers who initially accept a standard custody arrangement—where the mother has primary custody and the father sees the children a few times a week and every other weekend—may be pushed into custody battles by financial pressure. The claim is that when child support rises beyond what a father can reasonably manage, frustration and desperation can grow into anger, resentment, and eventually a fight for custody that was never the original goal. Daily parenting responsibilities after school—homework, dinner, baths, and bedtime—fall heavily on mothers, while meaningful leisure time with children is often concentrated on weekends. Fathers who can pay support and still maintain a stable lifestyle may not object to the arrangement at first. The concern raised here is that the conflict begins when support obligations increase to a point that feels unsustainable, leaving the father convinced that the system is designed not just to collect mo...

I AM THE ALIENATOR by Karen Woodall. I am an alienator. You know me well. You lived with me once and you witnessed my behavior patterns but you did not spend time studying and internalizing them. I know your behavior patterns better than you know them yourself. I know how to measure you, test you and control you. I know what your hooks are and I know that the depth of the love for your children is a weakness I can exploit. I am an emotional terrorist. I will terrify you into submission. You will do as I tell you to do, and if you do not, I will take your children away. I am an alienator, you didn’t notice that when we lived together but I began my work long before we went our separate ways. I created fissures and fractures within our family and I managed and manipulated reality, though for a long time you did not notice that. I am an alienator, at times in the past you felt a chill wind blow through you when my moods changed as I raged and then sweet talked you to smoo...