Noncustodial Mother's Day

This article explores why noncustodial mothers should be listening to podcasts hosted by other noncustodial mothers—and why these voices matter now more than ever. In the early 2000s, noncustodial mothers were rarely seen or heard. By 2008, after earning my degree, I skipped my graduation ceremony and instead focused on creating my first website for noncustodial mothers, Abused Swan. At the time, it was one of only three websites addressing family court issues. My children had been concealed from me, and becoming the first person in my family—and his—to earn a degree felt meaningless in the face of that loss. Even today, I continue to meet noncustodial mothers who had no idea what truly happens inside family court. If you do not know the issues exist or what to look for, you will never find them. That is why podcasts hosted by noncustodial mothers are so important. These women are speaking openly about their experiences and helping other parents find the courage to share their own stor...

Women leaving violent relationships face many challenges and risks. A survivor with children may encounter even greater barriers in protecting herself and her children from an ex-partner. These barriers are especially insidious because they take the form of “no-win” situations or “traps.” If she stays, she may be accused of “failing to protect” her children from violence and then faces more violence, yet leaving means facing the risk of stalking, harassment and more abuse. Reporting threats or violence to authorities or being reluctant to co-parent means she goes against the “friendly parent” standard used to award custody. She also risks being accused of making false allegations of abuse or being labeled as an “ alienator, ” causing “parental alienation syndrome” in her child.  HOME

I Cannot Bear This Wicked Pain He slowly pulls the shade down and stabs me through the eye,  ️  The pain is so excruciating I wish that I could die. He pounds and beats and bashes at my brain inside my head, I cannot bear this wicked pain,  I would much rather be dead. I try to escape, I try to run, But he grabs me as he says,  "I've only just begun!" The doctor prescribed some medicine to help with all the pain ,  But no matter what I do, he will just beat me up again. I cannot hear anything but the pounding in my skull. My vision gets so blurry, then the throbbing becomes dull. Oh, how I wish and how I pray for the pain to simply go away, But he beats and bashes at my brain, I suffer from the terrible pain. If only I could find a cure then no one else would have to endure, The agony of these cruel attacks, I just want to get my life back.  To suffer no more from the ravaging assault , This pain...

I AM THE ALIENATOR by Karen Woodall. I am an alienator. You know me well. You lived with me once and you witnessed my behavior patterns but you did not spend time studying and internalizing them. I know your behavior patterns better than you know them yourself. I know how to measure you, test you and control you. I know what your hooks are and I know that the depth of the love for your children is a weakness I can exploit. I am an emotional terrorist. I will terrify you into submission. You will do as I tell you to do, and if you do not, I will take your children away. I am an alienator, you didn’t notice that when we lived together but I began my work long before we went our separate ways. I created fissures and fractures within our family and I managed and manipulated reality, though for a long time you did not notice that. I am an alienator, at times in the past you felt a chill wind blow through you when my moods changed as I raged and then sweet talked you to smoo...