A Day To Honor And Support

Across the country, an alarming number of mothers are losing custody of their children to abusive fathers. In many of these cases, domestic violence is a central issue. Tragically, most noncustodial mothers are not able to spend Mother's Day with their children—many are even kept from knowing their children’s whereabouts.

In response to this crisis, DK, a noncustodial mother herself, created Noncustodial Mother’s Day in 2011. Her goal was simple yet powerful: to give friends and family a way to recognize and support mothers who are hurting in silence.

October, recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, is especially significant in this context. Through her research, DK discovered that the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was enacted on October 28th—a date that also happens to be her birthday. Given the deep personal and symbolic meaning of the day, she chose October 28th to honor all noncustodial mothers by establishing Noncustodial Mother’s Day.

This day is not just a time to raise awareness—it's a call to action. If you know a mother who is separated from her children, reach out. Let her know she is seen, heard, and loved.

And for noncustodial mothers: this is a day for you to come together, connect with others who understand, and remind one another that you are not alone.